A Guide to Helping Parents Transform Feelings of Overwhelm, Guilt and Isolation to Feel More Grounded and Accepting of Themselves and Their Child
You might be thinking…
Parenting is not all it’s cracked up to be.
As a parent or primary caregiver, you may be feeling overwhelmed and isolated, often leading to feelings of shame and guilt.
You may feel like you’ve lost control of your child, of yourself, and spend most of your time feeling lost, burdened, confused, and conflicted. You want to be a patient, compassionate and attuned caregiver, but are struggling to get there.
You read articles and try different techniques, attempting, striving to be that perfect parent. And when you come up short, you feel like a failure.
You are not alone.
In my decades of experience working with families, I’ve seen hundreds of parents and caregivers in your exact same position. It’s incredibly challenging to care for and regulate your children while feeling overstimulated and dysregulated yourself.
I’m Dafna Lender, and I’m a family therapy expert and attachment specialist as well as an international trainer and supervisor for practitioners who work with children and families.
I specialize in treating children and their parents, including those with ADHD, anxiety, learning disabilities, behavior outbursts, as well as those exposed to chronic mental illness, attachment wounds, and other forms of trauma.
From all this experience, I know how difficult it is to parent in these modern times, especially when your child(ren) has needs and challenges outside of your knowledge and experience.
This course is for the parent who loves their child deeply—but is tired of feeling reactive, stuck, or defeated. For the parent who has tried strategies, consequences, and “doing better,” yet still ends up in the same cycle: escalation, shutdown, guilt, and distance.
Over 12 hours, you’ll learn practical, attachment-informed tools that help you understand what’s happening underneath behavior—so you can respond with more steadiness, create more safety, and rebuild trust over time. This isn’t about becoming a perfect parent. It’s about becoming a more grounded one—so your child can feel you as a safe, reliable presence even when things are hard.
Lifetime access: You’ll have ongoing access to every module, so you can return whenever you need support—during a tough season, after a hard moment, or as your child grows and new challenges emerge.
What you’ll move through (6 modules)
Module 1: Understanding your emotions—so you can get a handle on reactions
Learn what’s happening in your body and nervous system when you’re triggered, and how to steady yourself in the moment. You’ll build the foundation for responding with clarity instead of regret.
Module 2: Understanding your child’s behavior—so you can address what’s underneath
Shift from “How do I stop this?” to “What is my child communicating?” You’ll learn how to read behavior through an attachment lens and choose responses that actually help your child settle and cooperate.
Module 3: Building a stronger parent–child relationship
Create more connection in everyday life—not just in crisis moments. You’ll learn simple ways to increase warmth, safety, and engagement so your child experiences you as someone who can help.
Module 4: Repairing after conflict—how to reconnect after fights and arguments
Every family ruptures. What matters is repair. You’ll learn how to come back together after disconnection in a way that reduces shame, rebuilds trust, and strengthens the relationship over time.
Module 5: Navigating complex and intense situations
For the harder moments—aggression, severe hyperactivity, sibling rivalry, and high-stress dynamics. You’ll learn how to stay anchored, reduce escalation, and create structure without losing connection.
Module 6: Feeling more capable, strong, and confident as a parent
Step out of survival mode. This module helps you reclaim your authority with compassion—so you can lead your family with more steadiness, self-trust, and hope.
The Anti-Perfect Parent
This online course will help you to form secure attachments, increase patience and compassion, and feel fully present with your children. You will learn the skills you need to transition from burdened and overwhelmed, to grounded and calm.
Perfection is a myth.
It's time to embrace the messiness.
Absolutely! This course aims at helping ALL parents and caregivers self-regulate and show up for their children with patience and compassion. The course language and curriculum is inclusive of all children and parents, regardless of psychology, history, and family structure.
Ready to be the patient, compassionate, and grounded caregiver you always wanted to be? Click below to enroll in the e-course.
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