Biography

Dafna Lender, LCSW

I went to social work school because I was sensitive and felt other people’s pain. I wanted to fight injustice and make the world a better place. If ever there were an underdog in the area, I was on their side. I once slept in a parking lot with a stray cat because my parents wouldn’t let me bring it in the house!

After graduating from social work school, I worked in an agency that had a residential center for children 6-12 whose behavior problems were to severe to live in a traditional foster home. They stayed in the residential center for 2 years, after which point they were supposed to move to a pre-adoptive home. That was my job: preparing families and the children to acclimate into the adoptive home.

Trouble is, my training in grad school did not prepare me for the monumental and difficult task that dealing with a child with major attachment and trauma wounds required. The agency only provided individual, psychodynamically oriented therapy to the children, and the pre-adoptive parents were not included in the therapy. The children on my caseload failed to acclimate. The families, who had had the best intentions and who had successfully completed the foster parent training program, felt demoralized and devastated by the failure as well.

I felt burned out and doubted my choice of profession - I even thought of leaving social work to become a mortgage broker. Luckily, I found two modalities to train in, Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy. I became deeply immersed in those studies and it transformed both my personal and professional existence. On a personal level, I understood why my own parents behaved as they did. I understood the meaning of intergenerational transmission of trauma. I understood that I had major sensory issues that prevented me from feeling comfortable in my body.

On a professional level: here were tools for working with the caregiver and child directly, to intervene on a practical, here and now level that actually made a difference. I suddenly felt happy to be a social worker again. I felt like I was making a difference and helping the underdog. I stayed in these modalities and became a trainer and supervisor in both.

THE LENDER DIFFERENCE

Interactive, active, and experiential

By incorporating practical, attachment, and somatic based activities every 45 minutes, Dafna helps you stay engaged, energized, and focused. The simplicity of these activities and the interactive quality of Dafna’s training approach prepares you to implement these strategies with your clients the very next day.

Accessible and interactive

Dafna is not afraid to share her vulnerabilities and brings every learning nugget to a personal, digestible level. Trainees attest that they immediately feel at ease and eager to participate in Dafna’s trainings.

Bringing “theory to body”

Dafna has devised ways of breaking down the most abstract and theoretical concepts into learning exercises aimed at bringing “theory to body”. After all, all true learning happens through experience. See a clip of Dafna’s hands-on teaching style here (link)

Treatment Observation and Analysis

Dafna’s trainings are chock-full of videos from clinical families who have given permission for their treatment to be shared. In Dafna’s training, you will have the opportunity to analyze behaviors or parents and children on a micro-level so as to become a keen observer of physiological changes that occur moment to moment.

Personalized Teaching

Dafna has worked in many different settings: day cares, educational settings, residential center, therapeutic foster care, in-home services and after school programs. She has a breadth of experience and can translate her teaching to many work settings.

Multilingual and Multicultural

Dafna is a traveller and wanderer - she teaches in four languages (English, Hebrew, French and Spanish) and has taught Theraplay and DDP trainings in 15 countries.

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